ON COMPLIMENTS || JUST SAY THANK YOU

Hey you! you look so beautiful today, yes you reading right now!!

Did you do that face that my boyfriend does when i'm being all mushy? that face that dismisses or just doesn't take a compliment? then this is for you!
I thought the inability to Accept compliments was a Nigerian thing until I watched the Amy schumer video on compliments via pop sugar the other day.

I was in an informal debate with my classmates last year in our lecture room and I was analyzing how every time we get a compliment or better still every time I get a compliment I pull a 'hahaha! Don't whine me" card or an 'abeg' or a 'nawa' followed by a negative comment to downsize the compliment to my level of comfort.

A compliment about me "looking so good or having great legs gets replied with a ' nawa me that I'm looking super dead or stressed'.

The problem however is that undermining people's compliments of you doesn't make you feel better it just makes us seem insecure.
I would never call myself insecure but when compliments roll in, I am definitely one of those very awkward recipients.

Getting a blog compliment to my face or a fan moment gets me looking stupid or clueless.

Compliments are very rare and people would rather practice body shaming than give you compliments so whenever you get it give yourself some credit and accept it with a thank you and a smile.

There is a quote that sums up what our attitudes should be like when we do get compliments by Marianne Williamson ;

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Why do we seek for kindness and kind words and when it is handed to us we don't know what to do with it than to dismiss it? Why is it that the understanding that we are what we are and we can be what we want to be seems so beyond our imagination?

Compliments isn't the only thing we need to start accepting.

we need to start accepting ourselves, our growths, finances, businesses and lives.

We need an uplift in the area of acceptance and confidence.

All i'm trying to tell you is to make a conscious effort to accept your compliments whether its a whine or it is less that true or its true. Take it in good strides. Smile and Just say THANK you.

Hello there you are fabulous!
What do you think about compliments? are you an awkward receiver? or a perpetual deflector?